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Do Your Cognitive Biases Hold You Back?

The answer to this question is a resounding, maybe. After all, who’s to say that your particular cognitive biases aren’t actually pushing you forward? The important thing to realize is that, no matter what, every human always enter every situation with biases. We filter everything we see through the prism of what we’ve experienced before. It is through this process that some people become pessimistic and others become optimistic in specific situations.

An individual with a pessimistic cognitive bias toward business opportunities is almost never aware of it. Even in those rare cases where they are self-aware enough to recognize that they tend to focus more on the raincloud than the rainbow, when decision making time comes along these people usually put their focus on the raincloud anyway. As a result they tend not to put themselves in the greatest position to succeed. Then, in the manner of all self-fulfilling prophesies, when they don’t succeed they file the experience away as further proof that business opportunities are rigged against them. As a result, people with these sorts of bias are definitely held back. What they seldom realize is that they are the force holding them back is one that they are creating.

Where could we look if we wanted to find people with the opposite bias? Thomas Edison seems like a great example. It’s well known that he failed many more times than he succeeded. The twist is that Edison interpreted those failures in a positive way. He said, “Now I know one more way that my idea won’t work.” Can you see how empowering it was for Edison to look at the world in this way? He set the rules up in a way that […]

9 Ways to Improve Your Memory

Your brain is an organ, but for right now think of it as a muscle. Think about all the muscles in your body, your biceps, pectorals, quads, etc. If want them to be strong, toned or ripped, you have to not only use them from day to day but exercise them.

If you only stick to your basic daily routine, you’ll never build those muscles. You need to lift weights, run, do yoga, swim, etc. When you do that, you’re using those muscles and strengthening them. Your brain is the same way. If you only use it from day to day to do mundane things, you’ll never stretch it or reach greater heights. If you find ways to “exercise” it, you’ll be better off.

A person’s memory is one of the most valuable things you have. Your memory is how you learn from your mistakes, remember the good times you had with friends and family and succeed in endeavors you undertake.  You should be striving to improve your memory so you can have it and use it as long as possible.

Here’s a list of 9 ways to improve your memory:

Puzzles and Brain Teasers: There all different kinds of puzzles you can do. There are crossword puzzles, jigsaw puzzles, 3-D puzzles, word searches, etc. These are great for me because they are the kinds of things I can do while watching my favorite shows on TV.
Number Games: Sudoku had a quick flare up a while ago. It was The Thing to do. Everyone was doing it. Every phone came with it; there was Solitaire and Sudoku. The trend has kind of died down, but it’s still a great way to work your mind.
Reading: There are so many […]

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    Be Productive Today: Don’t Regret the Past or Fear the Future

Be Productive Today: Don’t Regret the Past or Fear the Future

Have you ever found yourself ruminating over your past or stressing over your future? It’s a common ailment of the human race. I think we all struggle with this from time to time. This stress can be healthy because it will help us realize there are some things we want to do differently than we have done in the past. And in order to change those things we have to do something today to change them in the future. It’s only unhealthy when this stress or worry gets to be so crippling that all you can do is lie on your bed and stare at the ceiling. The famous Dalai Lama said, “There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other is called tomorrow.”

No matter how many times your review something in your head. And no matter how many times you plan something out in your head – it’s not going to happen unless you do something. Don’t cry over spilled milk and stop stressing about the milk that hasn’t been spilled. Today is the day to go out and do something. Today is the day that you can get something done.

Stop stressing. If you wanted to lose some weight, it wouldn’t make sense to just keep stressing about all the food you ate yesterday and it wouldn’t make sense to keep writing down your exercise plan. You have to buy some healthy food, eat healthy meals, go to the gym, and avoid eating those donuts today. If you are too lazy to do it today, you might be too lazy to do it tomorrow. If you don’t get it done today – […]

Why Expecting Immediate Results Can Lead to Failure

We live in a world of instant gratification. If we want to find out what time a movie is at, we just pull up the app on our phone. If we want to know how our friend’s vacation in Europe is going, we just check their Facebook or Instagram page. If we want to have a conference call with someone in another country, we just hop on Skype and we can see each other face to face.

No matter what information we need or who we need to talk to, we can do it almost instantly. Having that privilege constantly within our reach has tainted our realistic expectations. We expect everything to happen almost instantly. The reality of the situation is that most of the things in life that are worth having, take time. Patience is a virtue our society is slowly losing.

Kids are graduating high school and college and expecting their dream jobs to fall into their laps. They are going into debt so they have the house and cars their parents have. What they don’t realize is that their parents had to work to earn those things. The big house and nice cars came into their lives over time. You start out with a low paying job and move up in the world. You don’t get you dream home as soon as you graduate.

If you expect to have everything you want when you want it, you will be in for a world of hurt. It’s healthy to want achieve great things in life, but you have to have realistic expectations of when you will achieve them. Take the big house for example. Many young couples are going into debt because they get married […]

Negativity Stops You From Being Successful

“The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home.” ~Charles Swindoll
Positive people look at life with the attitude that they are going to charge, that they will make a difference and that they will do more than what is expected of them. That attitude is where success starts.

Remember, all those other things – past, education, money, circumstance, failure and success – have an impact and can be important, but many of those are outside your control. Your attitude, however, is completely up to you. That’s why it’s vital to maintain a positive attitude if you hope to achieve success.

Realize that you are in control of your attitude. As mentioned, there are outside influences, but how you respond and how those factors affect you in the long term is ultimately up to you. Having a positive attitude is about self-mastery and self-awareness – each of which will help you on your journey toward success.
Put a plan in place. Develop a pattern of positivity by surrounding yourself with positive people, books, and ideas. Both negativity and positivity can be habitual perspectives, so the more exposure you have to each, the more likely you are to embrace it.
Learn how to address problem areas. In the workplace, this may mean confronting the individuals who seem to promote negativity. In your personal life, it may mean improving relationships or personal […]

Stepping From Dreamer to Entrepreneur

It’s a hot afternoon, you’re sitting in a chair at you kitchen table thinking about the article you just read.  Lines from it take control of your thoughts, “Start you own business”, “Be your own boss”.  You have some good ideas running around in your mind and you’ve dreamt about what it would be like to actually make it happen.  You’ve thought of scenarios, people, places, products, services, etc.  Deep down inside, you know you could do it given the chance.

Well, here’s a little secret for you.  The chance will never be given to you.  You have to take it.  The difference between an entrepreneur and a dreamer is action.

People who dream about starting their own business want someone to walk up to them and say, “Here, I started this company from nothing.  I did it all in your name and now I want to give it to you.”  When you think about it that way, it really does sound ridiculous doesn’t it?  But that is honestly how most people want it to happen.  They aren’t willing to do the work themselves.

You never read stories about dreamers because they don’t do anything.  No one wants to hear about someone who daydreams all the time.  You read stories about people who had successful lives and careers.  About people who did hard things.  About people who made a difference.  They might have started out as dreamers, but they had a little something extra; the ability and desire to act.

You have to decide how badly you want this.  What are you willing to sacrifice to make it happen?  It won’t be easy, but it is possible.

In order to move from a dream to a possibility, you have […]

On Making a Good First Impression

People will judge you the moment they see you. If you want to leave a good lasting impression it’s important to remember a few things. Even if you are shy or uncomfortable with meeting new people, there is a way for you to succeed in making good first impressions. Just take a second to breathe and take notice of the following items:


Timing is important. If you are headed to a job interview or heading to an important conference for networking, you should definitely arrive a few minutes early. Plan ahead of time so that you will be ready for your meeting. Make sure that you aren’t rushing around a few minutes before the event starts. Plan out your timing and show up early. Arriving early shows that you are proficient and organized. It shows others that they can count on you to get the job done right and on time.


Before you walk into an interview or a conference make sure that you get your head in the right place. Figure out why you are attending the meeting and what you need to accomplish from going there. This will give you purpose in your introductions and will help you appear more confident.


Appearance is everything. Even though your mother might have told you that looks don’t matter. They do. It’s statistically proven that more attractive people get higher paying jobs and have more success in life. Figure out the dress code for the place you are going and try to dress a little bit nicer than is required. Make sure to keep your appearance sharp. Dress nicely, do your hair, and if you are female do your makeup. Details matter in this area and when making […]

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    “Once you choose hope, anything’s possible,” Christopher Reeves

“Once you choose hope, anything’s possible,” Christopher Reeves

Christopher Reeves was an amazing man who never let his disabilities get in the way of experiencing life.  Many people see him as going from being Superman to being the man in a wheelchair.  In all reality, he went from being the man who played Superman to actually becoming Superman.  His life and attitude towards it was nothing short of super.

Reeves’ example is like a beacon in the night.  He is there for all of us to look up to and see where life can take us.

There are times in everyone’s life when everything seems bleak.  When nothing is going the way you though it should have or would have.  It can be hard to look at your life and realize that it’s not where you want to be.  Whatever situation you find yourself in, just remember that no matter what is happening you can always have hope.

Happiness is a choice you make.  You can choose to accept things the way they are and not do anything about it, or you can choose to have hope and make up your mind to be happy.  That’s not saying it won’t be difficult, but it is a deliberate and conscience choice you have to make on your own.

Change starts with you.  You can’t change the people around you, no matter how hard you try.  You have to start with yourself.  Decide that you will be the one to step up and move forward.  Outside influences can only affect your outlook on life and your feelings about yourself and others if you allow them to.

You are the only one placing limitations on yourself.  First you have to believe that nothing can stop you, then you have to […]

The Magic of Goal Setting

Many people see goal setting as an activity to be done in the week between Christmas Day and New Year’s. It’s the traditional time to make some resolutions which can, just as traditionally, be forgotten about within a couple of weeks. If this describes the way you approach goal setting then brace yourself, because at this very moment you are reading an article with the power to transform your life.

There is one – and only one – trait that the vast majority of successful people have in common. It has nothing to do with ability or education or good looks or wealthy parents or good health or most of the other things you might assume. The trait that separates the majority of successful people from the rest of the pack is a strong goal orientation. Some of these people don’t even realize that they possess this trait, so innate is their drive to achieve their objectives. But when you look closely you will discover, time after time, that nearly all successful people have mastered these fundamental concepts.

The good news is that every one of these steps can be learned, practiced and perfected. So, in a nutshell, here are the key behaviors that goal oriented people exhibit:

1)      They know what they want. They imagine the future and get clear on where they intend to be. If they are looking forward to attending a class reunion and want to do so at a certain weight, they literally see themselves at that weight by the date of the event.

2)      They focus on what they want. It’s not enough to desire something and forget about it. In order to accomplish an important objective these people know that they need to really want […]

Be Willing To Fail

Our talents, skills and knowledge are like our physical bodies.  If you don’t exercise them, they start to deteriorate.  You can’t sit on a couch for a month and then expect to run a six minute mile.  You can’t expect to try something new and be perfect at it the first time.  You have to fail so you can build yourself up.  Failing helps you become the kind of person who can do hard things.

My dad is a retired Marine.  He has been in excellent physical shape his whole life.  When he was about 30 years old, he decided to start up swimming.  He had always been a runner and thought it was time for a change.  He figured that because he ran, weight trained and was a marine that swimming would be no problem.

He got to the pool that first day and decided he would swim a mile.  He only made it halfway when his body gave out him.  He realized that running and lifting weights uses different muscles than swimming.  He couldn’t believe how tired he had gotten in such a short amount of time.

He decided he wasn’t going to let it get him down.  He set a goal to swim a mile and that’s what he would do.  He continued to swim three days a week for a month.  He was getting nowhere.  Every time he hit the half mile mark, he was too weak to go on.

He thought that maybe it was his technique.  So he started learning more about swimming and all the different kinds of strokes.  He worked on his technique until he had it down pat.  But, he could still only make it a half mile.

After months of training […]